" I inquired."Well, the second one went wrong from the very beginning. I really thought we loved each other, but the honeymoon was a disaster, and we never recovered. It was as if her one goal in life was to have a baby, and after the baby, she no longer needed me.""Did you tell her that? She said I should be more understanding and help her more. I really thought we knew what we were doing, and I thought that perhaps for the first time I really knew what it meant to love someone. But a few months after marriage, she started complaining; about petty things at first—like my not taking the garbage out or not hanging up my clothes. She was one of the most positive people I have ever met—that's one of the things that attracted me to her. Everything I did was wonderful, but once we were married, it seemed I could do nothing right. Eventually, I lost my love for her and began to resent her. We agreed there was no benefit to our living together any longer, so we split."That was a year ago.
I really tried, but it didn't seem to make any difference. After a while, there was no love left, just deadness. I genuinely felt that she loved me."After the wedding, I don't think I changed. Later, she went to attacking my character, telling me she didn't feel she could trust me, accusing me of not being faithful to her. So my question is, What happens to love after the wedding? Is that why we have so many divorces in our country?
"Well," he said, "I've been married three times, and each time, it was wonderful before we got married, but somehow after the wedding it all fell apart. But after the marriage, it was a battle from the beginning."In my first marriage, we had three or four good years before the baby came.
Therefore, I have studied in the area of linguistics, which identifies a number of major language groups: Japanese, Chinese, Spanish, English, Portuguese, Arabic, Greek, German, French, and so on. The more we use a secondary language, the more comfortable we become conversing in it.
Most of us grow up learning the language of our parents and siblings, which becomes our primary or native tongue. If we speak only our primary language and encounter someone else who speaks only his or her primary language, which is different from ours, our communication will be limited.
No matter how hard you try to express love in English, if your spouse understands only Chinese, you will never understand how to love each other.
My friend on the plane was speaking the language of affirming words to his third wife when he said, "I told her how beautiful she was. I told her how proud I was to be her husband." He was speaking love, and he was sincere, but she did not understand his language.
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Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr.The desire for romantic love in marriage is deeply rooted in our psychological makeup. How is it that we read something online on "101 Ways to Express Love to Your Spouse," select two or three ways that seem especially helpful, try them, and our spouse doesn't even acknowledge our effort?We give up on the other 98 ways and go back to life as usual.In the field of linguistics, a language may have numerous dialects or variations.Similarly, within the five basic emotional love languages, there are many dialects.The professional make-up artist sisters Sam (right) and Nic Chapman (37 and 34) are behind the beauty vlog Pixiwoo (two million You Tube subscribers and the UK’s bestselling line of make-up brushes, Real Techniques).