Your teen may expect disapproval from older members of her family, but let her know that others may feel they can comment on her choices as well.
According to Lucas, (he is white, Watts is African-American) officers asked him, “How do you know her, what relationship,” he went on.
“They were questions that quite frankly made me feel like that they were questioning me being like the client of a prostitute.” It’s not the question itself that’s offensive, of course.
Explain what your wishes are for their relationships, such as choosing someone who treats them well or encourages them to be their best.
Let teens know that any concern you feel about their relationships has nothing to do with them and the person they are dating, but rather the challenges they both may face.
When you’re in a group of relative strangers, such as at a cocktail party, with multiple couples, and someone singles you out and asks with arched eyebrow, “So how did you two meet?
” the implication is usually not one of pure curiosity, but incredulity.
The first step in a successful conversation about interracial relationships is to explain that it is not racist to discuss potential reactions, challenges and other issues related to dating someone of another race.
Racism occurs when a person feels that one race is superior to another.
The translation can often be read as: “I’m sorry but how on Earth did you two end up together?
It just doesn’t make sense…at least not to me.” One of my friends said she and her husband got the question so frequently, often long before more traditional small talk—such as “How do you know the hosts? ”—that depending on the setting and her sense of humor that night, she might reply with a straight face: “Strip club.” They are both successful executives. She would of course always come clean, after everyone enjoyed an awkward chuckle.
Acknowledging that challenges and differences exist does not mean you or your child is a racist; this kind of open communication, however, is important for a successful relationship.