FWB arrangements are super clean and simple: a relationship purely for sexual enjoyment and exploration. FWB arrangements are best thought of as a bonus to be enjoyed in your life, but not something you need to hold on to or possess… but you practice safe sex and educate yourself on what it means to have safe sex.
It is essential that you understand the risks involved with sex and protect yourself accordingly.
Few single women today will tolerate deceit in any form, especially the 30-somethings you would like to date. May December romances happen all the time in fact - but like any good relationship, they have to start with a foundation of respect and honesty.
If you feel you need to connect with someone as a friend… If you feel like you want a boyfriend, then start a relationship with a guy from the foundation of creating that kind of relationship.
As a rule, though, never put your FWB into a role that is outside the arrangement (which is pure sexual enjoyment and exploration).
This protects you from slipping into thinking of the FWB arrangement as something more than it actually is, which is pure, simple, uncomplicated sexual exploration and enjoyment with a guy on an ongoing (but time-limited) basis.
The most important rule of having a friends with benefits arrangement is that you limit what this relationship is in your life.
"I am a 53 year old recently divorced man getting back in the dating game.
My problem is I can easily pass for being in my late 30's.The offshoot of this ever-growing trend is that men my own age are busy pursuing women in their early 20s, to the point of where its rare to find a man in his 30s or older online whole profile says anything but 'dating younger women' is what they're after, even if its just the age range that is able to contact them.And its not just me: many readers complain about the same thing, especially the 50-something ladies almost frantic with frustration, because - you guessed it - none of the men they grew up with will give them a second glance.But if you're lying about your age or withholding your age?Sooner or later it'll come out in the open, and don't be surprised if the relationship ends because of it. My Dad was 14 years older than my Mom, and a close female friend of mine has been dating a man almost twenty years her senior for seven years.I am fit, toned and dress younger than most men in their 50's. I am attracted to younger women because I still have the vigor and attitude of a younger man. "There are a lot of reasons why people in general are attracted to folks who are considerably (10 years) younger than themselves: to feel young again, to feel attractive to someone still in their reproductive prime, to enjoy the rush that youth provides (as opposed to the jadedness or anger some of us wear as we get older), and to feel proud that someone young and desirable is on our arm.