Even though they can make many decisions on their own, teens still need boundaries from you.Exactly what those boundaries are is something that you and your teen should discuss.
In his book, , Sean Covey defines for teens the difference in intelligent dating and brainless dating.
“Intelligent dating is dating successfully, being selective about who you date, hanging out and having fun, remaining steady through the natural highs and lows of romance, and keeping your own standards.
” Studies show that teenagers crave intimacy and adolescents are beginning to date at earlier ages.
Today, the average age for a person to begin dating is 13. Research has shown that serious adolescent relationships before either partner is emotionally mature can have detrimental effects for identity formation and even life and health.
Brainless dating is dating ineffectively, dating anyone who has a pulse, becoming centered on your girlfriend or boyfriend, having your heart broken repeatedly, and doing what everyone else seems to be doing.” Studies indicate that many of today’s teens are taking dating far too seriously. Truth be known, very few people actually marry their high school sweetheart.
One out of three teenage girls report experiencing physical violence from a dating partner, yet many of them stay in the relationship stating, “But I love him,” or “A bad relationship is better than no relationship at all.” Instead of understanding that teen dating is about meeting many different people and that breaking up is not a sign of failure, they get caught up in believing they will find Mr. Covey gives teens and parents six guidelines for intelligent dating, which would be great jumping off points for discussion: Don’t date too young – Dating too young can lead to all kinds of problems including getting taken advantage of, getting physical too soon, or not knowing how to end a relationship.
It's time to talk about the different types of relationships and love and to prepare to set rules for dating.
Talking about relationships in regular, everyday conversations lets you and your child talk about your family values when it comes to friendship, dating, and love.
Here are a few suggestions that may work for your family: There are many areas to discuss when it comes to teen dating.