If you want a different outcome, try a different script..
Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. I definitely think this is a list of questions that would help two people come to know each other much better.
Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.
You can also try them with people you already know well—friends, family members, even long-term partners—to deepen your ties. I plan on printing two copies of this out and pulling it out on my wife and I's next date night.
Each of you should take a turn answering each question. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? We've been together 26 years and I welcome (and even need) to have the chance to connect with her on new levels.
If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for him or her to know. Tell your partner what you like about them: be honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you've just met. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life. I believe that is best left to later in the relationship discussions.
Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people's? How do you feel about your relationship with your mother? Complete this sentence "I wish I had someone with whom I could share..." 27. The one that stood out most was the question of which family member's death would disturb you most.
These questions only take about 45 minutes to discuss—and they almost always make two people feel better about each other and want to see each other again, according to social psychology researcher Arthur Aron of the Interpersonal Relationships Lab at Stony Brook University in New York, who published his results in "The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness" in (1997). Before making a phone call, do you ever rehearse what you're going to say? Now, I'm no psychologist, but as an experienced wife and nagger, I can tell you that every single item on this list would elicit the "yes dear, whatever you think" response, followed by the "I have to go to the bathroom" response, in as little as three minutes, and that within the hour, we'd probably be arguing at the top of our lungs. thanks anyway, and good luck with your facebook campaign!
You can try these questions with a date, but they're not necessarily only applicable to fostering romance. :) Helen Hi Helen, I can't argue with you that many men would not have a negative reaction to 36 questions, but not all are that way.
The questions were developed as part of a scientific study intended to establish that intimacy can be developed quickly.
What roles do love and affection play in your life? Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. I think you'd need to pick and choose among these questions and see how the conversation went.
Then he got up to get something to eat while I was on the "life story" question and just yelled for me to keep talking because he was listening.