Dating over 40 is not that scary if you think about it.You’ve made it this far so you must be doing something right.
So I thought I’d tell you about the experience men have when they’re trying to “date like a grownup.” If you’ve read my e Book, you know that I believe strongly that empathizing with men is absolutely essential to your dating and relationship success.
The definition of empathy is “the power of understanding and imaginatively entering into another person’s feelings.
Similarly, leave the anger issues you have with your ex where they belong. A natural progression would be: first a few emails, then phone calls, then an in-person meet up.
Don’t assume the person you are trying to bond with has ulterior motives, those are seeds that grow only to wreck relationships. If you’re given an unusual specific time to call then that should signal a red flag.
If you are having phone conversations and the other person does most of the talking, that too should signal a red flag. After 40, the anxiety over getting physical is an outdated reaction to seeking a casual encounter.
Conversations should be 50/50 and if the other person is dominating the conversation it’s likely they would try to dominate the relationship. Misinterpreting lust for love is when trouble starts.
If you desire a lasting and meaningful relationship then it is time to drop your list of “must haves” and replace it with some thought of how a potential partner is going to treat you and make you feel. Nobody wants to start a relationship with someone still living in the past.
If you’re seeking someone your own age then it’s likely that you share some similar experiences, such as a failed marriage, or health issues and its tempting to bond on those issues but bonding on a negative is like walking with two left feet. In today’s world, it is most likely that you will be meeting your potential dates online through some sort of dating service like or e Harmony.
We’re looking for something that we can’t provide for ourselves, companionship.
Most of us are mid to late career people, who just don’t have the patience to play games.
You know your routine, the foods you like, the styles you enjoy; so stick to what you know and be happy with it.