We put two and two together, and wrote and wrote, and that’s how The Rules were born!
We had no idea The Rules would become a bestseller…
However, their parents, Jim Bob and Michelle, have some very specific and unusual rules for their daughters and the young men in their lives.
So over fried tofu and mixed vegetables, we each brought our dating problems to the table.
We began to notice that the women who played hard to get, either deliberately or by accident, were the ones who got the guys, while the women who asked guys out or were too available were the ones who got dumped.
we just wanted to help women stop making mistakes and get the men of their dreams—and that’s what we still do now, 20 years later!
Today, Ellen is married with two children and lives in New York, and Sherrie is married with a teenage daughter and lives in New Jersey.
there are a lot of things you can learn from not pairing off alone.” Although the girls are permitted to have one private phone conversation per day, their text messages are monitored by both of their parents.
Jim Bob said “it’s neat to see their conversations.” Any and all physical contact must be approved by Jim Bob.
We came up with the idea for a self-help dating book called The Rules after many, many dinners with single girlfriends at the now-defunct Sung Chu Mein, a Chinese restaurant on the Upper East Side in New York City—it was sort of like Sex and the City, but before Sex and the City!
Like most women our age, we were career-minded with our own apartments, but we also wanted to get married.
The Duggar family has revealed some unusual “courting” rules, as two of their daughters currently have boyfriends.
Jessa, age 20, and Jill, age 22, both announced that they have begun dating.
However, both Jessa and Jill are well over the age of 18.