“The younger and less experienced he is, the more open he’ll be in his relationship with you.”Be forewarned, though: Less baggage can also mean a lack of relationship skills, such as communicating and resolving problems and conflicts, says Melanie Matcek, a matchmaker and relationship coach in San Antonio, TX.Be selective about your battles and learn to compromise on things that aren’t vital to your relationship, she recommends.“He’s not ready for all of the pressures and responsibilities that go along with a committed relationship because his emotional maturity is not fully developed yet.” He’s either scared of love or loves you but feels like marriage means giving up his freedom, she adds—and that means you could be looking at girlfriend status for the long term.
Add the fact that younger guys have more stamina, and you just may have a match made in orgasm heaven.“A younger man has more energy and is more willing to try things,” says Lindsay Slosberg, dating expert for the app Let’s Date.
“In turn, doing new things increases dopamine in the brain, triggering a desire to spend more time together and assisting in lighting your sexual fire.”An even bigger bedroom bonus?
Women in their mid-20s to early 30s are prime for baby-making, but “younger men don’t have the ‘dad” gene in them until they get to be more established and mature,” says New York City-based matchmaker Janis Spindel.
So if you want kids, it could be several years until your youthful partner is ready to face the reality of raising one.
If we embrace the struggles that have given us the very life experience a mature man (or anyone) finds appealing, we give ourselves permission to reconnect with our own childlike spirit.
Sure, men over 40, 50 and 60 also have unattractive qualities that often get generalized (for good reason!) But since we women can’t () change them, what we can do is better ourselves and therefore better our options from who is available—if we’ve decided that a new life partner is really what we want. And if we’re still single and happy with(in) ourselves—really, truly, pinky-swear happy, not self-denial mask-happy—and enjoy or prefer singlehood, then it’s really, truly okay to fly solo, too!I know plenty of “older” women who are fun and playful and spontaneous and kick-ass awesome—single and otherwise.A longer span of time before he’s reaching for the Viagra.Sure, you’ll have dinner dates, but also be ready for, say, a 10-mile hike one weekend followed by an indie rock concert the next.Younger women is a topic I haven’t discussed here in a while. If you’re much younger than 30 you’re welcome to read on if you’re curious, since this is something that will be affecting you in a few years.