I attended doctor’s appointments, was there when her water broke, drove her to the hospital and, due to a cesarean, was the first parent to hold my child. This leads me to the actual subject of this “opinion”: child support.
As a progressive thinking male, I have a love/hate relationship with the institution.
Thank you again for writing in with a question that surely resonates with many.
I wish you courage in the process of sorting this out and peace with whatever choice you make.
It might be a good idea to partner with a therapist who can facilitate a thorough exploration of these issues and support you in the process.
Once you have gained greater clarity on your thoughts, feelings, and concerns about the fact your boyfriend is already a father, it seems that the next step is to talk to him.
She approaches her work from a person-centered perspective, always acknowledging the people she works with as experts on themselves.
She is honored and humbled on a daily basis to be able to partner with people at such critical points in their unique journeys.
I can, however, suggest some areas for you to explore as you consider your next steps.
As is often true with relationships, it is a bit more complicated than that.
Although this was an interesting topic, since I have no firsthand experience with child support, I solicited an open call on Twitter (@Wisdom Is Misery) to see if any men or women would be willing to share their experience, views, opinions, and trials and tribulations with child support. While I wanted their pieces to be original, I asked them to, at minimum, address four questions: (click here to read the woman’s viewpoint on child support) I love my son.