I am more concerned with YOU, than who your friends are.
After all, I am on a date with YOU, and not your friends.
This usually involves sharing some sort of heroic story where they once combatted racism.
The story usually ends with “I told them no because you should not judge someone by the color of their skin” or “I said you shouldn’t do that because it’s racist.” Can we just have a normal date where we talk about what we like to do for fun or what we do for a living?
Save the debates for after we know that we actually like each other, not when we’re still trying to…
recently got into a interesting conversation with a few White women I know, who happen to date Black or minority men, and it really highlighted a need to explore the complexities of such unions in greater depth.
Unfortunately, some people still haven’t gotten the memo about hot sauce.
Not all Black people love hot sauce, hot wings, or spicy food.Once again, I’d rather be talking about what normal people talk about on dates, like what they like to do for fun etc.Although this might seem like the last one, it is nothing like it.Having Black friends won’t help the situation if you have the personality of burnt toast.For some reason, White men often feel the need to re-assure us that they love women outside of their race, but if you’re already on a date with me, isn’t obvious you like women outside of your race? There is no need to waste time re-assuring me of this.Sometimes White men will go on and on about their Black friends thinking that it will somehow impress you.